It's A Game of Hide And Seek

It takes a lot to change a person's mind. It takes even more to persuade them to stick with that mindset. It takes hardly anything at all to arouse doubt in that person's mind.

I was listening to a favorite teacher of mine today and he was talking about how he sees less girls at my school standing up for themselves. And he made me want to change how I act because he made it seem real to me. He said that we, as teenagers, have lost all of our dignity. We tantalize every boy we meet until we spur them into a sexual frenzy and, before we know it, that's all they see us as: a toy that they can bring out and play with whenever they want. We don't see any other way to get attention from a boy because they only seem to pay attention if we show some skin or if we talk to them just right so that they take notice. It's become an art form.

Has anyone seen the movie Breakfast At Tiffany's? Holly is just like every one of us with guy problems and insecurities. She tries to fill herself up by farming herself out to men and she'll stay with them for a few nights until they get too attached or want a little too much from her, and she leaves. She's become the equivalent of the modern boy. She thinks the only way to survive is to date like a guy does. Use the girl a couple times, then leave. Stay just long enough that the girl feels wanted and then leave her with nothing. Holly's mastered that. And she isn't happy. But she meets "Fred" and he falls for her because he sees her personality. And he loves her for it.

This does not mean that every single boy you meet is going to fall head-over-heels in love with you just because you show him "who you really are." It means you have to be yourself and keep looking for the boy who will love you for who you are. Pretending to be something you aren't is rough and difficult and it wears you down. You will never be happy because you have to play a game to maintain your status and where you are.

There is no magic pill. It will not come easy. You have to work at it, but, little by little, you can make a change and be happier. A girl who's truly happy is a lot more attractive than a girl who is selectively happy.

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